In your particular situation, is this value important to you?
Family
Go through all values, then choose your top ones
You kept these values. Now pick your top 3 or 4 — the ones that matter most in this situation.
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Flexibility map
Answer a few questions to build your map
Step 1 of 5
What situation or area of life are you focusing on?
Your answer will shape everything that follows. Be as specific as you like.
Managing work stressMy teenagerGetting back to exerciseAnxiety about the future
What matters
In this situation, what matters most to you?
Think about the kind of person you want to be, and what you most care about here.
Values-based actions
What would living closer to what matters actually look like?
Concrete, observable behaviour — what would someone watching you see you doing?
What hooks you
What difficult thoughts, feelings or worries tend to pull you away from what matters?
These are the internal experiences that hook you — not what happens outside, but what shows up inside.
When hooked
If those thoughts and feelings were completely in charge, what would someone watching you actually see you doing?
Observable behaviour only — not what you'd feel inside, but what an outside observer would notice.
One small step this week
What's one thing you could do — even something small — that moves you toward what matters in this situation?
I will
by
Start with a verb. Make it small enough that it feels genuinely doable this week.
Moving away from difficulty
Moving toward what matters
What hooks you
What matters
When hooked
Values-based actions
One small step
This tool is based on the psychological flexibility framework from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).
It is for self-reflection only and does not constitute therapy or clinical advice.
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